Halloween

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Halloween can be such a fun holiday for children and adults alike. The decorations, costumes, parties and trick or treating all add up to creating a festive mood. Creativity soars as we look to create fun decorations, carve interestingjack o’ lanterns and inspired costumes.A modern living room with a white sectional sofa and large windows.
Halloween in recent history was thought of asprimarilychildren dressing up to go trick or treating. Today more money is spent on adult costumes than children’s costumes – nearly 1.25 billion dollars. Plus another $330 million will be spent on pet costumes.
Halloween costumes can allow us to dress up and try on an alter ego. Costumes are a way to explore who you aren’t. For example, it’s unlikely a nurse will dress up as a sexy nurse – or any other type of nurse for that matter. But she might choose a sexy waitress and the waitress might choose the nurse or another profession.

Here is a quick review of how some Halloween costumes might be interpreted:

Disney Princess
If you are going as Elsa, Cinderella, Snow White or another Disneyprincess,it is likelyyou are sentimental and romantic.Cinderellawas your favorite movie when you were 12 and you know all the words to “Let it Go.” Wearingthe dress of your favorite princess reminds you of your childhood when life was simple, anything was possible, and every little girl was royalty.
Fantasy Characters
Stepping out as Obi-Wan Kenobe, Gandalfor Arya Stark? If dressing up as your favorite fantasy or sci-fi character is your top costume choice for Halloween, perhaps youenjoy the escapismof these fantasy worlds. Thisis your chance to step into the shoes of your favorite character and playfor a night in a fantasy world.
Historical Figures
Going as Amelia Earhart, Abraham Lincoln, or Cleopatra might indicate that you are a bit of a realist or that you have a strong connection to a particular period in history. Although such representations are often romanticized notions about particular eras, the figures are usually legendary people who have left a powerful mark on history. Steppingout in the characterof such a figurecouldindicate a need to be larger than life, powerful, and celebrated.
Horror Creatures
Zombies, vampires, monsters, witches, and frightening ghouls are perhaps the figures we most often associate with Halloween. By wearing thesecostumes, you might be exploring your darkerside. It does help to minimize the power of that which frightens us. For example, people fear death, so dressing as the Grim Reaper helps us to make light of that fear. Macabre and grotesque both terrifies and fascinates us.
Last-Minute DIY Costumes
You waited until the night of the party and wrap yourself inan old sheet and grab a wreath for your head. You aremost likelyno stranger to procrastination, in fact, it is likely you putoff things in your everyday life as well. It couldsimply mean that you are too busy doing other things to give serious thought to a once-a-year event. Either way, you probably don’t think too much about your costume, or really care what other people think about it either.
Superheroes
If you’redressing as your favorite superhero, whether it is Iron Man, Wonder Woman, or Captain America, you might be trying to get in touch with your own inner hero. It is a common fantasy to daydream about beingthe hero or saving the day. Superhero costumes help feedinto this fantasy. It is also possiblewearingsuch costumesmight be an attempt to overcome underlying feelings of inadequacy or weakness.
Sexy Costumes
Wearing a sexy or revealing costume might mean that you’re an exhibitionist and that you want to be noticed orconverselyit is possible that you are very conservative in your normal daily routine and this allows you to explore an alter ego normally kept hidden.

Costumes are communication devices

They say something about yourself to others and are meant to elicit a response. They reveal a bit about our inner fantasy life and are meant to elicit a response. Normally one doesn’t put on a costume to sit home alone. Costumes are vehicles of social connection. So, be creative, have fun and send the message that you want others to get!

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Why Do We Sometimes Celebrate Fear?

Did you know that Walt Disney reportedly had a surprising fear?

Keep reading — it might change how you think about your own.

Halloween is one of the few times each year when we intentionally celebrate fear. We build haunted houses, tell ghost stories, and watch zombie movies. For many people, that controlled rush of adrenaline feels thrilling.

In fact, some individuals even chase that sensation repeatedly.

However, what about the people who don’t enjoy fear at all? What about those who feel consumed by it?

That kind of fear is different.


When Fear Helps — And When It Hurts

Fear can serve an important purpose. If a hungry tiger stands nearby, fear activates the fight-or-flight response and prepares the body to survive. In that situation, fear protects you.

Yet most modern fears are not life-or-death threats.

Instead, they involve flying, public speaking, medical procedures, driving, or social situations. Although these fears feel intense, they rarely signal true danger.

Over time, unmanaged fear can begin to limit life. When fear becomes persistent and overwhelming, it may develop into a phobia. At that point, willpower alone often isn’t enough.

That’s when professional support — including tools such as hypnosis — can help retrain the mind and calm the nervous system.


Practical Steps for Overcoming Fear

While deeper phobias may require professional guidance, many fears respond well to simple awareness practices.

1. Cultivate Awareness

First, acknowledge that fear limits your enjoyment of life. Many people become so accustomed to anxious thoughts that they stop noticing how much control fear has taken.

2. Identify the Specific Fear

Next, clarify what you’re actually afraid of. What images appear in your mind? What story plays out in those mental scenes? Often, fear grows stronger when left undefined.

3. Become Curious

Rather than fighting the fear immediately, observe it. Where do you feel it in your body? What thoughts fuel it? How do you react when it appears?

Curiosity reduces intensity.

4. Use Your Breath

Then, slow your breathing. Inhale calm. Exhale tension. As you breathe, imagine the fear shrinking or even turning into a cartoon version of itself. Visualization shifts emotional charge.

5. Change the Emotional Tone

You might even print or draw an image that represents your fear. Humor can reduce power. When you treat fear as something smaller than you, your nervous system begins to recalibrate.

6. Imagine Life Without the Fear

Finally, picture yourself free from it. How would you stand? Speak? Move? Think? Practicing that version of yourself builds new neural pathways.


Walt Disney’s Surprising Phobia

Reports suggest that Walt Disney struggled with musophobia — a fear of mice.

Ironically, he went on to create Mickey Mouse, Minnie Mouse, and an entire entertainment empire built around animated mice.

Whether or not that creative act consciously addressed his fear, the symbolism is powerful. By transforming something frightening into something playful, he shifted its meaning.

He turned fear into imagination.


When Fear Becomes a Phobia

If your fear has crossed into phobia territory, you already know it isn’t logical. You may understand intellectually that you are safe, yet your body reacts as if danger is imminent.

At that stage, professional help can make a meaningful difference.

Hypnosis, in particular, helps rewire fear responses by working directly with the subconscious patterns that fuel them. Rather than forcing yourself to “be brave,” hypnosis can help you feel naturally calmer and more confident.


Releasing Fear and Living Fully

Franklin Delano Roosevelt famously said,

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

Perhaps it’s time to release fear and reclaim your sense of freedom.

You don’t have to remain controlled by it.

Fear can warn you — but it does not have to rule you.

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Last Friday, Halloween, I had the great honor of appearing on a local television station. We discussed Halloween Superstitions. My interview with Marty Matthews is at 10connects.
I wanted to post it here, but ran into snags. So, just click on 10connects and you can see it. Post your questions for me there as well. I will be checking to see what questions are asked and do my best to answer them!

Friday night was a fabulous night, lots of adorable kiddies came by in costume. Now, it is November and I am ready to move forward into a new month, with great opportunities. Lots planned, a class at the Dunedin Fine Arts Center, a great networking event I am speaking at Casa Tina’s (also in Dunedin) and my annual day long marathon at Palm Harbor University High School for the Great American Teach – In.

For now, I am getting my week planned and started. I had a great walk today and feel the positive energy in the air! The best way to predict the future is to invent it. Here’s to great new inventions!

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This has always been a favorite of mine. My brother had this record (I believe it was an old 45!) and would play it for me. One time, Mumsy was away for the day and he convinced me to let him wrap me up in mummy wrap. (He was always making costumes.) I was around five at the time. Well, once I was wrapped up, he locked me outside the house,playing this music.

I was let back in, just before Mumsy got back home, she was never the wiser.

This song just seems right after writing about Superstitions.

Happy Halloween, have a Spook-tacular day! Don’t forget to get pictures of your costume and send them over to my buddy BadEvan. You could win $500!

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A delightful Halloween tradition is the carving of pumpkins. How my kids always enjoyed the gooey insides as we scraped them out onto newspapers. Of course, somehow there was always enough goo to spread well beyond the papers, no matter how many I spread out. We would draw a face and carve it. Place a candle inside and our creation took on a life!

There were years I bought several pumpkins, attempting to do my “Martha Stewart” impression. Unfortunately in my house, I usually ended up looking more like Jimmy Stewart. Oh well. The kids and I had fun.

Carving Jack-O-Lanterns is a Halloween custom that dates back to ancient Ireland. The first Jack-O-Lanterns, though were actually made of turnips, beets or even potatoes, not pumpkins. Pumpkins began to be used later, when Irishmen immigrated to the United States.

There are several version of an Irish legend that tells of a man named Stingy Jack, who convinced the Devil to pay for one last drink before he took his soul. The Devil turned himself into a sixpence and when it came time to pay, instead of paying for the drink Jack pocketed the sixpence and kept it stored beside a silver cross. This prevented the Devil from changing back. Jack made a deal with the Devil before letting him free. The Devil could not harass him for ten years. When the Devil returned, Jack again tricked the Devil and surrounded him with crosses.

When Jack died he was refused entry at the Gates of Heaven. He went to the Gates of Hell and the Devil told him to go away, as Jack had made him promise not to claim his soul. Because it was dark, Jack didn’t want to leave and he couldn’t find his way. The Devil tossed Jack a glowing coal and Jack put it inside a turnip. Ever since with this “Jack O’ Lantern”, Stingy Jack’s lonely soul has been roaming the earth. Other versions tell of Jack’s death while stealing turnips and when he was refused entrance into both heaven and hell, he used a candle to light the turnip he still had with him. Other versions exist as well, I am sure.

The tradition of leaving the pumpkins out is to keep evil spirits away. Personally, I put a lit pumpkin out to delight my adorable little trick or treaters.

Superstitions can be a good thing, if not taken to an extreme. If your lucky shirt helps you remember your lines for an audition, great! Seeing it will boost your confidence, therefore, it has a placeob effect. It is when a superstition leads to obsessive behavior or fears that you might want to examine their value.

  • Take time to learn the history of a superstition.
  • Evaluate how it serves you.
  • Look at the logic behind the superstition.
  • Re-frame how you think about the outcome of “not” adhering to the ritual or belief. (This can be done with the help of neuro-lingusitic programming.)
  • Visualize yourself happy and successful, no matter what!
Black plastic folding step stool.

With household repairs and Halloween decorations going up, there was a ladder or two out and around my house this weekend. No accidents occurred, I am happy to report. Just for fun, I must confess, I walked under the ladder while it was empty. I just had to tempt fate.

Walking beneath a ladder is a common Halloween superstition. People fear bad luck as a result. This stems back to the days before the gallows. Criminals were hung from the top rung of a ladder and their spirits were believed to linger underneath. Common folklore is that it is bad luck to walk beneath an open ladder and pass through the triangle of evil ghosts and spirits.

So far, my luck is holding out!

Of course, this ladder was more difficult to walk under, almost had bad luck trying to get through, than the one we used to reach up higher.

I checked with the OSHA website, while there are precautions set forth for buying ladders and using them, I couldn’t find any references to Spirits lingering.

OSHA LADDER SAFETY

Off to get my week started, I’ll let you know if things change. For now, I will keep my thoughts focused on the positive fun this week promises.

One quick sidestep here. My buddy Stan, over at Razzball, a fantasy baseball blog sent this to me. I think this means the feeling is mutual!

Children dressed as wizard and jester.


We are taking a break from our regularly scheduled fear and phobia articles to bring you this timely and important message.

My friend, BadEvan is conducting a Halloween Costume contest. The contest is being sponsored by Buycostumes.com. The prize is $500. That’s right, $500 for your costume should you be the lucky winner. Now, I know my readers can dig down deep into their creative subconscious mind and find the perfect costume idea. All you have to do is get a picture of your costume and send it to BadEvan and then wait for the judges to decide who wins. The details are found at BadEvan’s site.

Here’s the most important part of this contest. I was asked to be a judge and I was told that bribes are allowed! Shoes make me happy folks, so I am imagining a whole new closet being built, just for those shoes. Send them my way and sway my vote. (Or not, but definitely one of the two!)