I enjoyed yesterday’s post by P.W. and really appreciate her contribution. What she wrote encouraged more thoughts on my part about seemingly unjust situations that have occurred in my life. Even if I decide to let it go, do I really? Do I just move on, without another thought or do I harbor some ill feelings towards the other person?
I would love to tell you that St. Debbie, smiles, shines it on and all is forgiven in her perfect little world. I would also like to tell you that my home is as full of gold as Donald Trump’s. Neither of those statements represent the facts. However, I am working on both of them.
I will do my best in the moment to make the choice to remain calm and patient. I act “as if” the behavior is not offensive. Then, when the time is appropriate, I will take a quiet moment to think through the event. Removing emotions, just noticing what the events were, I can determine what the lesson in that moment was for me. Why did I allow it to bother me, was there something in me that owned the hurt at a deeper level? Was there a behavior I could change to prevent these types of things from happening again?
Imagine taking a negative moment and making it neutral. Then allow yourself to notice all the facts about it, just facts. Notice the lessons for yourself in that moment. Who would you be if those lessons were a part of your life? How would you change your behaviors? How might you feel differently? What would improve in your life if those changes occurred?
Think of someone you now who has the behaviors that you desire. Imagine them in the same circumstances. Allow that person to show you, in your imagination how to feel the same way, filled with strength and inner peace. Breathe in those feelings, really make them a part of your very core. Then relax. Go on about your day, looking forward to opportunities to be that strong, calm person that you deserve to be!
Just in case anyone is interested in helping me match the gold in my home to Donald Trump’s, email me and I will tell you where to send it!
I can identify with what you said about doing your best to remain calm and patient in certain situations. I successfully used what I have learned with self-hypnosis in a meeting with my boss yesterday…and amazingly remained calm after I centered myself and reminded myself to breathe…while being open and actively listening after taking down my imaginary wall. I walked away with her knowing that I did understand the issue…and was able to see the lesson even though we didn’t see eye to eye. And today she complimented me on my calmness in a chaotic situation. Another “God-thing” for me…allowing the Light to view the entire situation while embracing my mistake and not reacting to other’s behavior. I AM getting it…more and more!
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Thanks for your post. I get caught up in the moment and think in ways that do me no good. When I finally come to my senses I think about a person who was part of my life for a very short time and how they handled things…it brings me back to earth.
Debbie, I have such a history for where I wish I would have thought before I commented. So good luck as I’m sure your on the right track. And I’m trying very hard after being sick to let go of my old harbored anger. As my daughter has told me…it can eat me and you up. Good luck as you move forward in the right direction, harmony and peace.
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