Fear. Fear of not being enough.

Often I have clients who come to see me about their careers as well as personal lives. They are “stuck”. Things may be going well, but they can’t seem to get it to the next level. Worse still, they have the opportunity to move forward, but fear holds them back. What if they are not good enough? What if they are a fraud? What if another person finds out?! What if the opportunity really is too good to be true, after all they don’t deserve it, do they?

I tell a client at a time like this to ask themselves, “Is it too good to be true for anybody, or just too good to be true for you?” If your best friend or co-worker had this opportunity, would it be too good for them? Why is it that we see so much more worthiness for our family, friends, and co-workers than we do for ourselves?

First of all, perhaps it is time to give yourself some compassion. Take time to see yourself through the eyes of one who loves you. You may be the world to another, stop and think how they see you. Wouldn’t they see you as good enough for this opportunity?

Next, stop comparing yourself to others. You have your own set of abilities, talents and even quirks that make you the very individual you are. There is no one who is perfect, so get off your back! Your quirks are a part of you and unless they cause harm to yourself or another, let them be for now! Just focus on enjoying the experience of life.

I will take a client through a hypnotic experience of who they are and allow them to see themselves through the eyes of another who loves them. I will also guide them through an experience the way they imagine a hero or mentor would experience it. It is amazing the confidence that they can then go forward into the new opportunity with!

Start cheering yourself onward. After all, if not you, then who?