DebbieDona

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Can you please hypnotize me so that I can prove to my boyfriend that I am telling the truth? We have been together for a long time and now my boyfriend thinks I have been seeing other men. I want to prove to him that I haven’t so he won’t get so angry.

While I have other concerns I will address, the first response to the above question was, while I can hypnotize you and you can answer questions during that time about your relationships and whether you are seeing others, I cannot guarantee that what you tell me is the truth. Why? Because hypnosis is not truth serum, plain and simple you can lie while in a hypnotic state.

Remember, hypnosis is a natural occurrence. It is a state of focus, mental alertness. If you are determined to protect information and that is best done by lying, you can lie. I do not control you when you are experiencing hypnosis, you are in control at all times.

While is is great PR to tell the world as a hypnotist that you are going to put someone famous under and get to the truth, that is all it is, media hype. In forensic hypnosis, there are very specific rules as to how questions are asked. Forensic hypnosis is about helping someone recall past information, not creating new theories or supporting old ones, nor is it about finally getting the truth from the witness.

My next response to such a question is that I see red flags all over a relationship that has such big time issues. Perhaps I could refer you to a good couples therapist?

Woman in classroom with motivational text.

It is Monday afternoon and I am just now sitting down to muse! That is actually a good thing. I had a fabulous trip away. I took time to rest body, mind and soul. My husband and I put bunches more miles on our bikes, I love when that happens. I have said before, biking for me is a moving meditation. I also spent some amazing time in self-hypnosis, focusing on what I enjoy as my goals and what I am doing right now that allows me to meet those goals.

One of the things that became apparent for me, was that I have not been practicing what I preach nearly enough. One of my favorite sayings is: “just because you are extended an invitation to turmoil, doesn’t mean you have to attend.” Well, recently I have had several invitations. I thought I was remaining on the fringes, but in reality, I was somewhat emotionally charged by the situations. Being away from the fray, allowed me to completely disengage. What freedom that is!

So, I have decided to remain disengaged in those particular circumstances. I am also going to listen to my body and my thoughts more clearly. Do I hear and feel at peace or am I looking for the charge of chaos? When I am truly peaceful, so is my body. I enjoy the great feelings that riding my bike or walking gives me. I also enjoy moments of gratitude. Perhaps this trip was about my reconnecting with my gratitude for my life, just the way it is.

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Once again time for some well deserved silliness. I am actually away as this is posted. I took some time to get away and relax with my husband. At least that is our intent. We left our teen aged son behind, on his own. (Not totally, remember he has two dads? Well, unbeknown to him, I asked his bio-dad to check in on him while we are gone.) Still, there are many hours that he will go unchecked. He has a summer job, I stocked the fridge and I can only hope that this is where he will prove that he is not trying to juggle too many balls at once.

Watch and see what I mean:

Honestly, was I the only one who noticed the balls matched before he mentioned it?

Pepperoni pizza in an open box.


Smoking and obesity both linked to (are you ready for this?) hearing loss! When I got this information in my mailbox, I had to check it out. I thought it was another attempt to sell me something. Turns out, this one is for real.

Here is the link: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7443730.stm

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Dear Debbie,

Here is another question I recently received:

I’ve lost my enthusiasm for my work. I’m in sales, and lately I can’t seem to close deals. I’ve heard hypnosis can help with self-confidence. Can you help? And how many sessions does a typical self-confidence program require?

This is a common concern — especially among professionals in sales, real estate, and performance-based careers.

Let’s address it directly.


Can Hypnosis Help with Self-Confidence?

Yes.

Hypnosis can significantly improve self-confidence, motivation, and sales performance.

Why? Because confidence begins in the mind.

How you feel about yourself grows from what you consistently think about yourself. If you repeatedly doubt your abilities, criticize your performance, or expect rejection, your results will reflect that internal pattern.

Over time, negative self-talk erodes enthusiasm. Eventually, even skilled professionals begin to hesitate — and hesitation costs sales.

Hypnosis works by identifying and reshaping those internal thought patterns. When you change the internal dialogue, your external performance improves naturally.


Why Sales Professionals Lose Momentum

When someone in sales struggles to close deals, it’s rarely about technique alone.

Often, it involves:

  • Fear of rejection

  • Performance pressure

  • Burnout

  • Loss of enthusiasm

  • Subconscious resistance to success

  • A dip in self-image

Hypnosis helps uncover and reset these patterns at the subconscious level, where habits and beliefs live.

As confidence strengthens, closing becomes more natural and enjoyable again.


How Many Hypnosis Sessions Do You Need?

This is the question everyone asks — and it’s understandable.

However, answering that without a conversation is like asking a doctor to prescribe medication over the phone without examining you.

Or perhaps a better analogy: imagine calling a mechanic and saying, “My car makes a noise like ping, patta pat pat, ping ping. How much will it cost and how long will repairs take?”

The mechanic needs to see the car before giving a clear answer.

In the same way, I need to understand:

  • What specifically has shifted in your work

  • How long the confidence issue has been present

  • Your goals

  • Your readiness for change

During a consultation, I ask questions to gain clarity about your situation. This allows us to create a focused and efficient plan.


The Truth About Hypnosis Programs

Ultimately, the number of sessions depends on you.

Some clients experience noticeable shifts quickly. Others prefer deeper reinforcement over time.

You determine the pace. You determine the outcome. I serve as your guide.

My role is to help you access the confidence and enthusiasm that already exist within you.


Real Results from Hypnosis for Sales Confidence

One of the most rewarding parts of my work is hearing from former clients who rediscover their momentum.

Recently, a client in real estate shared how much more enjoyable her work feels now. Despite negative media surrounding her profession, she feels confident, focused, and energized. In fact, she tells others whenever she has the opportunity how profoundly this process improved her life.

When confidence returns, sales follow.

More importantly, work becomes enjoyable again.


If you’re ready to rebuild your self-confidence and improve your sales performance, hypnosis can help you reconnect with the enthusiasm that once came naturally.

Golfer swinging club on a golf course.

Did you see Tiger Woods on Saturday, the Thirteenth Hole? As I watched several attempts prior to him on that same hole, I was reminded of an arcade game. Watching the ball roll backwards. Then Tiger, recovering from recent knee surgery managed to make a 70-foot eagle putt to get back in the game. Amazing. Tiger continued to play amazingly, we were shouting and cheering him on as we watched our television. (As if he would play better with our cheers and encouragements!) He had a chip that he struck too hard, only to bow his head and laugh when it one-hopped into the hole for birdie on the 17th. Woods ended one of his most exciting rounds in a major tournament with a 30-foot eagle putt on the 18th hole for a 1-under 70 and a one-shot lead.

“It’s just the most amazing display of athletic, mental power that there is, there ever was,” said Rocco Mediate, who had a three-shot lead early on the back nine until a four-hole meltdown. “Look at him. He hasn’t played in 10 weeks. There’s no surprise to me, but he hasn’t played for 10 weeks! And he comes here. So I’m not surprised. I can’t wait to see what happens tomorrow.”

Tomorrow came. Sunday was again an amazing day. Tiger Woods calmly drained a 12-foot birdie on the 18th hole Sunday to tie Rocco Mediate and force an 18-hole playoff at the U.S. Open. The playoff, which goes Monday, will be the first at a U.S. Open since 2001.

Recent surgery, wincing as he made some of his shots and yet when asked if his knee would make one more round of golf, Tiger is said to have replied, “It’s going to have to.”


“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

W. Clement Stone
Black cat with tongue sticking out.

It is Friday, Friday the 13th no less! According to the superstitious, that is supposed to make today unlucky. Watch out for ladders. Beware of black cats crossing your path. Watch out, the number 13 is unlucky. I am afraid I don’t buy into that, not even a little. In fact, my house is numbered 14. My neighbor is 12, 13 was skipped. I should be number 13.

13

So, I asked the post office to please change my address to the proper number, they refused. Often now, I will use the number 13 on mail that I want to see if they sell my name on lists. Seems like a lucky opportunity to me.

I asked my cat, Sassy her opinion of Friday the 13th. This was her response.

So, I went downstairs to look for ladders. This one might be a bit hard for me to walk under, I am not sure how I can test my luck with this.

OK, so maybe I should spill some salt. Drat, we don’t have any in the house, do you suppose I could use the bag of tablets from the water softener? If so, I will have to wait until my son gets home, the bag is pretty heavy for me to lift. I know, I will just continue with my day and my life. So far, thinking positive thoughts have helped. Why change now?

Woman wearing a white shirt, clasped hands.

Hypnosis helping cancer patients? Yes, according to this report that was aired on ABC news , hypnosis helps cancer patients with surgery pain, reduce nausea and lessen fatigue. But wait, there’s more; cancer patients who used hypnosis were also found to be less upset and anxious. If that isn’t enough for you, hypnosis saved these patients money in their treatment.

Woman meditating outdoors in green field.

You are absolutely on the right track by reliving pleasant experiences before bed.

In fact, this is one of the most effective stress management and self-hypnosis techniques for sleep. When you intentionally recall a positive memory, you activate calming emotions in the body. Your breathing slows. Your muscles soften. Your nervous system shifts out of survival mode.

Personally, I often use pleasant memories to generate powerful positive emotions as I fall asleep. Once I feel grounded and steady, I may briefly allow a challenge into my awareness.

However — and this is important — I release attachment to the outcome. I let go of expectation and return my focus to the good feelings I created.

Then I fall asleep with a simple inner question:
What is my next step?

Many times, I either dream the solution or wake with clarity that helps me move forward.

This is not accidental. When you relax before sleep, your subconscious mind continues processing in healthy and creative ways.


Why Stress Affects Concentration

Difficulty concentrating during grief and stress is common.

When you say you can “feel your mind pulling away,” that is a protective response. If something feels overwhelming, your nervous system attempts to shield you by redirecting attention.

However, avoidance does not resolve what must be handled.

Therefore, instead of forcing concentration, build it gently.


A Simple Daily Stress Detox Practice

To regain focus and emotional balance, schedule short “detox” moments throughout the day.

Even two minutes can reset your nervous system.

Here’s how:

  1. Stop and take a slow, deep breath.

  2. As you inhale, notice your body.

  3. Listen internally.

  4. Become aware of your heartbeat.

  5. Sense your body occupying the space around you.

Continue breathing deeply.

Then affirm quietly:

I deserve peace, serenity, and joy.
My thoughts are clear.
I remain focused.

Repeat this as often as needed during the day.

Over time, this practice strengthens emotional resilience, improves concentration, and reduces stress naturally.


Moving Forward After Loss and Change

You are not behind. You are not weak. You are navigating grief, transition, and responsibility all at once.

So continue using positive imagery before sleep. Additionally, build small daily moments of intentional calm. As your nervous system stabilizes, your concentration will return.

Be patient with yourself.

Healing and clarity often arrive quietly — especially when you give them space.

Thermometer and sun, indicating high temperature.


Saturday morning my husband and I went on our favorite bike ride to the park, where we walk the park and then ride home. It was hot out, even early in the morning. The ride there was great, if uneventful. I was not fully myself however and considered if I wanted to do the whole walk. Not being one to give up easily, I decided to go ahead and walk the whole walk. Around these parts, hills are not common. Part of the walk includes a sandy hill, with tree roots all over. It is a challenge on a normal day, a real challenge on a hot day.

I was sweating and working my way up the hill when suddenly I felt weak. I attempted to push through it. It became too hard and I felt my head swimming, so I stopped. My husband looked behind to see me bent over, breathing heavy. He asked me if I was OK. I replied that I was fine, just needed to rest a moment. Then, I closed my eyes and for the first time understood the many references to seeing stars when feeling faint. I did not faint, however.

My husband asked me if I needed to sit. I was afraid if I did, I wouldn’t be able to stand back up. I thanked my husband for helping me. He laughed at that and said, “Well, gee, I thought about telling you to keep up or shut up, or maybe ditching you here for a golf game. I even thought it might be a good time to say I’m not calling any damn ambulances, so don’t even consider getting worse!” I started to giggle, he continued with further such ridiculous threats. The more he said, the more I laughed and my focus changed.

Next thing, I felt much better and we were able to continue. On the ride home, a gentleman was watering his flowers with a hose in his front yard. My husband called out and asked him to spray us. He did, it was amazingly refreshing. When we got home, my husband told me he had been quite worried, I was very pale and my lips were without color. His jokes helped me. He said, “laughter is the best medicine.”

Indeed, it is.

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