Valentine’s day, the most romantic day of the year. Yeah, right;
Love stinks!
“You love her
But she loves him
And he loves somebody else
You just can’t win
One thing for sure
Love stinks!”
Maybe you remember the J. Geils Band?
If you believe love stinks, love hurts, there aren’t any good ones out there anymore, anyway;perhaps it isn’t what’s out there that is the problem. Maybe, just maybe, you have stinking thinking. If that is so, then STOP IT right now. You can look around to blame all you want, but that isn’t going to help you find someone to cozy up with. (Unless you really do want to spend all your nights with a puppy or a kitty!)
The truth is, our brains are hard wired to go to the negative. We tend to regress to the familiar, we want to prove our beliefs over and over. So, if past experience has told us that we are doomed to fail in relationships or we only attract losers, we will continually look for the proof. Everything can be “perfect”, but one small miss step and the mind latches on to that and says’ “Ah Ha! See, you are headed down the path of doom again!” Then the downward spiral begins.
An effective way of changing your thoughts is to make eye contact with yourself. Sounds silly? It works. Daily, look into your eyes, not just at your face in the mirror. Give yourself that positive feedback you would love to hear from a loved one. Smile. Your subconscious hears you when you do this.
Next, as you are falling asleep at night, you go through Theta brainwaves. So, focus on the emotions you want to feel. Picture yourself in love. Not with a specific target, but just imagine how love would look if it were a part of your life. Feel those wonderful feelings of pleasure and happiness. Imagine the places you would go, the things you would do.
Finally, use humor to ward off negative thoughts, rewire those synapses. Instead of thinking what a jerk your last lover was, imagine him/her as a cartoon like character. See the humor in what they are. Imagine yourself riding into the sunset with Prince Charming or Princess Dreamy.
Since I am married to Prince Charming of course I believe in true love. And who can look at a newborns mug and not know there is plenty of love out there.
Without even asking you, you manage to give me just the advice I’ve been needing to hear for weeks now.
Ms. Debbie… I do believe I love you. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing. I really need this…
As I am sometimes disgusted with my wonderful hubby..I shall remember those words as I lay next to him wanted to knock him off the bed..
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
For the most part he’s a keeper..but then there are those times….where love just doesn’t matter…
That’s all very well but I looked in my eyes in the mirror this morning and lost half an hour… 🙂
Roses are Red, violets are blue
Wisdom Hypnosis will tell you wot’s true.
ms. eleni,
CONGRATULATIONS on your new grandson!
@ fragilereggie,
you are so lovable, it is impossible to imagine anything but happiness in your life. I am always glad I can help.
@ Allure,
know your value, keep reminding yourself how valuable you are. I know you are going through a rough time, you will heal and you deserve to be honored for the brave woman you are!
@ Dorothy,
“For the most part he’s a keeper..but then there are those times….where love just doesn’t matter…”
oh that is another whole post! 😉
@ Ken,
I can understand that, I lose track of time when I gaze into your eyes as well. Come to think of it, I lost my wallet last time I did that as well!
I love this post and had to look up theta waves, incredible fun. So much to learn. 🙂
I found out that theta waves are good for bloggers as well, one often get new ideas while having them right?
@ Øyvind
You are so very right about the connection with theta and creativity. In fact, my friend’s book, Writing Down Your Soul is a great read if you want to know how the process works. Best when done by hand, but it still works on the computer.
Thanks for stopping by with that great insight.