Dear Debbie,

No, I’m not writing myself a letter — although I do enjoy that practice. In my morning journaling, I often write letters. Sometimes I write to God. Other times I write to someone I need clarity with (at least in my own mind). And yes, occasionally I write to myself.

However, today I am responding to questions that have been sent to me.

Over the years, I’ve received many thoughtful questions about hypnosis and self-hypnosis. Typically, I reply by email. Sometimes my answer is brief. Other times it becomes a full reflection, depending on the question — and perhaps the day.

Now, I’ve decided to begin sharing some of these questions here, especially when I believe others may benefit.

“If I Relax, Won’t I Just Fall Asleep?”

Here’s the question:

If I settle down in the way you describe, I’m liable to fall asleep. Is that always so? If so, how do you wake yourself up?

How do you keep your mind concentrated on the thoughts you want? Are there particular techniques? When my mind wanders, that’s usually when I fall asleep — especially if I’m lying down.

These are excellent questions. In fact, many of my clients share the same concern before beginning hypnosis.

Is It Normal to Fall Asleep During Hypnosis?

First, understand this: hypnosis is not the same as sleep.

While hypnosis feels deeply relaxing, it is actually a state of focused awareness. You remain in control the entire time.

That said, if you are overtired, you might drift into sleep — especially if you practice while lying down. When that happens in my office, I sometimes joke, “I’m not that nice — you won’t be permitted to sleep.”

Of course, I say that with a smile.

In truth, there are rare moments when someone truly needs rest. In those cases, I may allow them to drift briefly, complete part of the work, and then gently guide them back to awareness.

However, most people do not fall asleep once they understand what hypnosis truly is.

How to Prevent Falling Asleep During Self-Hypnosis

If you’re worried about falling asleep during self-hypnosis, consider these adjustments:

1. Choose the Right Time of Day

Practice when you feel naturally alert. Early morning often works well. Late morning or early evening may also be ideal. You know your rhythms — use them to your advantage.

2. Sit Upright

Instead of lying down, sit comfortably in a chair with your feet supported. This simple shift significantly reduces the likelihood of sleep.

3. Set a Timer

If you’re concerned about losing track of time, set a gentle timer. Your subconscious mind is excellent at time awareness — especially when you set a clear intention — but a timer can give your conscious mind reassurance.

What Happens If You Do Fall Asleep?

If you’re listening to a hypnosis audio and drift off, you won’t consciously hear what follows.

However — and this is important — the last thing your subconscious mind heard before sleep was positive, empowering, and aligned with your goals.

That’s not a bad way to fall asleep.

How to Keep Your Mind Focused During Self-Hypnosis

Many people assume they must “control” their thoughts. Instead, allow them to pass.

If you fight wandering thoughts, you strengthen them. Remember: what you resist will persist.

So rather than resisting, gently notice the thought — then redirect yourself.

Each time your mind wanders, calmly bring it back to your intention. Over time, this becomes easier and more natural.

Additionally, you may find it helpful to use:

• Soft instrumental music (without lyrics)

• White noise

• A guided audio created specifically for your goals

These tools provide structure while still allowing your subconscious mind to do its work.

Will I Wake Up on My Own?

Yes.

The subconscious mind’s primary role is protection. If you set a clear intention — for example, “I will return to full awareness in 20 minutes” — your mind will cooperate.

Still, in the beginning, use a timer for peace of mind. Eventually, you may find you no longer need it.

Ready to Practice?

If you’re just beginning your journey with self-hypnosis, I invite you to start with something simple and structured.

On my website, you’ll find a free stress reduction download — a gentle and effective introduction to guided self-hypnosis.

Try it. Notice how you feel. Then let me know what you discover.

There was more to the original letter, and I will address the remaining questions in a future post.

For now — happy relaxing.